The resurrection and our emotional bank account

January 16, 2018frjohnma

Happy Easter my dear people of God and May the blessings of the risen Lord abide with you now and always! “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Ps.118:24). This is the most excellent and wonderful day throughout the history of the Church and the world. A day we testify to the truth or reality of the reign of life over death; the triumph of light over darkness; the victory of joy over challenges; the vindication of the just over the wicked and liars. This day we celebrate joy in truth! This day our song is Alleluia! Alleluia!! Alleluia!!! This day we experience the reality of the power of God over all earthly and celestial powers.

All the foregoing points to the fruits of Jesus’ Resurrection which is a special deposit into our emotional bank account that is operated on our behalf by Jesus Christ Himself. Don’t forget, our relationship with Jesus Christ is a covenantal type and very precious. The construct of emotional bank account was conceptualised by Stephen Covey. He says, it “…is a metaphor that describes the amount of trust that’s been built up in a relationship. It’s the feeling of safeness you have with another human being.” Unlike the financial accounts we own in conventional banks, emotional bank accounts are investments of trust in people we relate with. So each person we relate with keeps our emotional bank account just as we keep theirs. So, if I say my emotional bank account has enlarge I am invariably saying the level of trust you have for me has increased and such understanding heightens joy or happiness in me. This is how E.B.A. (Emotional Bank Account) works!

We make deposits into our emotional bank account which is managed by others by our acts of courtesies, kindnesses, honesties, and keeping of commitments. Covey opines that discourtesies, disrespects, cutting people off, ignoring them, becoming arbitrary, betraying trust, issuing threats, and so forth are acts of withdrawal from the E.B.A. Other points of withdrawal are jealousies, envies, angers and disloyalties. Every sphere of life needs this account especially marriages and family life, friendships, civil, public and business organisations just to name a few. Thus, when we have a large balance in our E.B.A. with others, relationships are strong and trust is high. When the balance is low or our account is overdrawn, relationships and trust suffer. Interesting, Covey offers us six key ways to build our E.B.A.: understanding the individual (especially by listening), making and keeping commitments, clarifying expectations, remembering that little things are big things (smiles, hugs, warm greetings on a cold morning/day), showing personal integrity, and apologizing sincerely when you are wrong or may have failed somebody.

The good news is that Christ by the event of the resurrection has fulfilled a major promise and has assured us that death is put under His control and has restored our fallen nature and reclaimed our snatched dignity from the evil one. Hence, He has indeed invested so much in our E.B.A. Therefore, we in gratitude ought to reciprocate by making meaningful deposits in our relationship with Him.

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